We’ve been conditioned to believe that a special person will simply appear in our lives one day. We just have to be at the right place, at the right time and once our eyes lock, that will be it. But, that only happens in movies and novels and instant attraction isn’t the sign of compatibility, commitment, consistency, respect and a basis for a long-term relationship. If you want to meet a person that is a better match for your personality and life goals, you should consider gay matchmaking. 

What is matchmaking?

In the most traditional sense, matchmaking is the process of connecting two people who wish to either be in a serious relationship or to get married. Both parties involved have the same goals and the initial meet-up is arranged by a third party, a person, or a matchmaking agency. Since 70% of gay couples actually met online, just imagine how many gay people would find the one through a personalized matchmaking service?

Why do people ask for help?

The main reason gay people ask for dating help is that there are so many swipes, but just a few aren’t an utter disappointment. We live in the era of so many dating apps and different ways to meet new people, but ultimately success rate is disappointing. Finding someone for a short-term fling is easy, but finding someone you connect with on other, deeper levels is difficult. 

Staying positive and hopeful that your love life will change around can be hard. But, what if we told you that a gay matchmaking agency that has an 87% success rate can be the bridge that takes you to the man that meets your needs and expectations. Beau Brummell’s professional gay matchmaking service takes pride in its success rate and the fact that around six hundred couples they matched are still together. The co-founders say “The key to our success is our personal touch“ as they hand-pick each match for their clients. Knowing that professional matchmakers are there to watch you succeed is worth taking the leap and ask for help. 

What are the benefits?

We’ve mentioned percentages and data that are persuasive enough, and we’ll also go through other tangible benefits of teaming up with a gay matchmaker in New York or anywhere else in the world. 

It’s a time saver

It’s a matchmaker’s job to select a number of suitable matches which means you won’t waste your time anymore. Finding a partner for a long term relationship in a world where people are constantly looking for temporary connections is tiring. Instead, you’ll use this extra time on other things knowing that a matchmaker is about to call you and present your potential matches.

The process

From the initial consultation to the actual dates, the matchmaking process is thorough and personalized. They aren’t relying on apps and algorithms or luck to find potential matches. The process is different and detailed and they will personally go through their database to find another of their clients who is a suitable match based on your profile. But, before a matchmaker even enters this final phase, they will interview you, and meet up in person or online to gather as much data about you as possible.

It’s not about the attraction, it’s all about compatibility

The main criteria for matching you to your potential partner are your goals, values, needs, tastes, preferences, and all other factors that are important for people to feel like it’s a match! A matchmaker won’t look for a tall, dark and handsome per se, because attraction doesn’t guarantee deep connection, compatibility and being a suitable match.  Compatibility is the key to a high success rate and many love stories start with “we met through a matchmaker”.

Coaching

Apart from their personalised service, a matchmaker is also a dating coach and can help you by providing valuable dating and relationship advice. Whether it’s how to make the right first impression by staying authentic, or how to get to know the person on a deeper level, ask the right questions, you will be and feel supported during the entire process.

Safety

Safety is always an issue when you have to go on a date with someone you never actually met. But, these concerns are diminished because every client that signs up for matchmaking services is thoroughly screened and vetted in person. Every matchmaker has met with their client base in person, so there will be no misrepresentation or any risks involved.

You give and receive feedback

In order to improve our dating skills, we need to receive feedback. If we don’t get the feedback, we might wonder what went wrong because we didn’t get a second date. Also, providing feedback helps a matchmaker refine their search. So, feedback goes both ways and it’s a valuable aspect of matchmaking. 

In conclusion, when you decide to get the help of a matchmaker, you increase your chances of finding your person. The investment will be worth your while and you’ll get to build a life story with someone who shares your values and goals.

QUEERGURU’s Lifestyle Editor PETER MINKOFF is a gay health and lifestyle writer at QUEER VOICES magazine. Besides writing, he worked as a freelance fashion stylist in Europe and Australia. A true craft beer and soy latte aficionado, he loves spending his days at the beach and visiting second-hand stores on a daily basis. Follow Peter on TWITTER for more tips.