So, you landed a date soon, huh? If that’s so, then you might want to think about what you are going to wear. Some might say that appearances don’t matter very much, but let’s speak truthfully – appearances do matter in the LGBTQ community. This is why, more often than not, many members of this community need some help in finding the perfect outfit for their first date. This is even more important if that date is someone you actually like, and you definitely don’t want to embarrass yourself in front of them, now do you? Anywho, take a look at some first date tips that will help you create the best outfit for your big day (no, we’re not talking about the wedding, chill down a bit).
Buy something new
The best way to prepare for your forthcoming date and boost your confidence at the same time is to go out and buy yourself a new piece of clothing that you will actually wear on your date. This might not be something that you actually need, but we always feel more confident when we buy a shirt or jeans that look good on us. Speaking of jeans, why not buy a new pair of skinny jeans that will accentuate your legs and your bottom? If not, and if you want to focus on a different body part – so be it.
Comfort first
What many fail to understand is that the first date is not such a big event – it only matters for the time being. That being said, there is no need for you to go crazy with the outfits and wear formal shoes, suits, skirts, high heels. Always put your comfort first. This is why opting for comfortable women’s sneakers instead of high heels and a hoodie instead of a blazer is a good thing. Not only will you be more comfortable, but you will also show how playful and cool you can be.
Be fabulous if you want to
On the other hand, you can put your comfort first while still being quite fabulous. The trick is to find pieces that you think are bold and that look good on you while still feeling comfortable in them. Also, you can practically choose whatever you want for the top – at the end of the day it’s the shoes that make you feel comfortable or not. So, if you’re a punk-rock type of person, emo, or if you rock any other style, feel free to experiment. However, bear in mind that you need to know the preferences and likings of the person you’re going on a date with. You don’t want to come dressed in a way they will find appalling.
Say no to wrinkles
You might think this is a logical process of getting ready for a date, but honey you haven’t seen everything. So, the problem is that many people do not iron their clothes prior going out. If you are one of those people, answer this: do you like seeing wrinkles on other people? And will you have the same approach when your face starts getting wrinkles? Definitely not, so use an iron and make sure that you’re going out without any wrinkles on the clothes. The only wrinkles that are excused are the ones that you make while sitting
Ask a friend
As the last resort, you can always ask a friend you think is fashionable enough to help you make the best decision and wear what suits you the most. You need to know that sometimes we need a second opinion, and who better to do that than our own best friend who would tell us literally anything?
Getting ready is never easy, especially for a date that we want to succeed. Not knowing what to wear and what to do with our hair, while having butterflies in our stomach at the same time is definitely a challenging task. So, good luck, and as RuPaul would say – don’t f**k it up!
QUEERGURU Correspondent PETER MINKOFF is a gay health and lifestyle writer at QUEER VOICES magazine. Besides writing, he worked as a freelance fashion stylist in Europe and Australia. A true craft beer and soy latte aficionado, he loves spending his days at the beach and visiting second hand stores on a daily basis. Follow Peter on TWITTER for more tips.
