It’s not the global warming that’s our biggest villain at the moment. Yes, it will definitely affect our lives in the future, but now it’s time to worry about the villains of the present. Being a millennial carries much weight with it, and if you’re a gay man, then it’s even more stressful and difficult. This is only one of the reasons why many young men suffer from stress and depression. Now, there are many different ways in which you can help yourself. And remember that you should always do that – put yourself first and do the things that make you feel good. So, take a look at some of the ways in which you can defeat stress:
1. Breathe deep
One of the most important tips that you should bear in mind is that deep breathing can actually help you a lot. Well, anything that’s deep is good, and breathing is no different! Jokes aside, breathing is something that we do mechanically, but there are moments when we should think about it. Breathing in the right way can be quite significant, and practicing breathing activities can make your day and improve your mental state.
2. Try yoga and meditation
Speaking of breathing correctly, if you’re up for a challenge, then you could always opt to sign up for a yoga class, or practice it at home (but what if your yoga teacher is super hot?). If you choose to do yoga or meditate at home, the only thing you will need is peace and quiet. Try to close your eyes and imagine yourself somewhere serene, and simply focus on your breathing. Listen to the way you sound and think of nothing else but that.
3. Create a relaxing atmosphere
Regardless of whether you take up yoga or meditation or not, one of the best things that you can do for yourself and your well-being is to create a very relaxing atmosphere in your living room. Gay people love spending time and money on interior design, especially as they get older. Now, one of the most important things for creating a relaxing atmosphere are candles, so make sure to have your candle supplies ready in case you need them. Everything is easier with candles, and no need to say super romantic.
4. Surround yourself with funny people
Humor solves everything, and stress is no different. It’s very important to gay people, so what you should do is surround yourself with the funniest people you know. Spend a day with them shopping, go to the park or simply organize a get-together. You probably have negative people all around you, and it’s of the utmost importance to stay away from them when you’re stressed out.
5. Binge watching solves problems
Another great activity that costs practically zero and can enhance your mood tremendously is sitting at home and watching your favorite TV shows (choose one with handsome actors as it’s always good to have yourself some eye candy on the screen). Order pizza, have juice and simply enjoy.
6. HIIT the gym
Even though it sounds cliché, hitting the gym can actually be quite beneficial. Working on yourself and sweating your stress out can improve your mood and make you a happier (albeit a more tired) person. If you find exercising boring, you can try out the new workout trends – the HIIT training that’s gaining a lot of popularity, or even cross fit. After a hard day at work, punching a bag can really bring satisfaction!
7. Gift yourself
Money cannot buy happiness, but it can definitely buy things and things make us happy, don’t they? Of course, this happiness will not be long-lasting, but who cares? If it’s going to make us forget about our stress and worries for at least some time, who are we to say no to that? Go to the mall and get yourself something that you have always wanted. It works like a charm!
8. Read a good book
Reading might not be your favorite activity, but that only means that you haven’t discovered good books yet. A good book can make you forget about the troubles that you are having, and can open your mind to other lives, problems and opinions. Reading about people whose fate and life is worse or more stressful than yours is always a good thing. You can learn so much from a good book, but know whose recommendations to listen to.
9. Vacay time
However, if your budget allows it, you can always book tickets to a distant destination and have a great vacation. Traveling to places you’ve never been before and exploring both the nature and the gay scene is definitely something that can raise our spirits up. Of course, you don’t have to go big if you’re not in the position to. Simply take some time off and visit a town or city that’s close to yours and dislocate for some time – it will definitely do you good.
10. Do the things you like
Finally, always strive to do the things that you like. If you want to take up a new hobby – so be it. Painting, for example, might be an excellent way to deal with stress. If you like gardening, make some time and start doing it. However, it’s not only important to indulge in great hobbies, but also not do the things that you don’t want to do. Learn the power of “No” as it can help you a lot.
Fighting off stress is always easier said than done, but that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. These ten ways are quite simple, yet very effective. Try them out and you will see the difference.
QUEERGURU Correspondent PETER MINKOFF is a gay health and lifestyle writer at QUEER VOICES magazine. Besides writing, he worked as a freelance fashion stylist in Europe and Australia. A true craft beer and soy latte aficionado, he loves spending his days at the beach and visiting second hand stores on a daily basis. Follow Peter on TWITTER for more tips.
